Sunday, January 31, 2010

Sunday's Little Steps

How can one dog get into so much trouble? I let them out this morning and before I even got dressed, Sam had jumped the fence (with her line on) and was now on the other side of the fence trying to dig in the frozen ground to get back in! After getting dressed and going around the snow drifts, I got her on a leash. Both dogs are to stay inside until I can watch them. I don't need Sam going over and getting caught up on the fence!

So I went to check the internet and while I was gone, Sam chewed a big hole in Beamer's pillow and pulled out the stuffing. NOW they ARE going out and not coming back. Since it wasn't suppose to be above freezing, I was going to just let them out for short periods at a time. Now, they can just chill out there. I walked past the window a little it later and the sun had come out and they were both sunning themselves on the deck.

This afternoon I baked cookies and watched the news and a Christian station for a bit. I promised Kathleen cookies tomorrow and I got them all done before the dogs came back in. (Yea!) The drive for a pepsi isn't here today...but I sure am tired. As soon as I hear from the kids, I am going to bed. The dogs are already in. The pillow repaired. We are ready for the night!

Wednesday, January 27, 2010

The Seemlingly Endless Craving

Have you ever tried to kick an addiction? Its tough. I have been addicted to Diet Pepsi most of my life. The first time I got pregnant I immediately quit drinking pop and smoking cigarettes. I wasn't going to hurt my baby. I did restart both at a later date. I quit cigarettes completely the next time I stopped (although I did puff from my husband's cigarettes a couple of times when we were under great duress.) Pepsi was a problem, though. Its a magnet for me. I'll spend $8 on gas just to go get a drink. Then I will be so mad at myself for doing that.

Not that long ago, I was completely off Diet Pepsi and then one day I was somewhere and all that was available was Pepsi to drink. I thought, just this one time. Unfortunately, there is no "only one time" drink for me!!!!! Now, here I am going through the withdrawal of it again. It is a lot like quitting smoking, if you can get through the first 10 days, you got it made. The first couple days I am like in a stupor, it is so hard to even stay awake or alert. My body is screaming for another drink.

Pepsi and Coke affect my thinking, my emotions and what I do with my life. I will procrastinate on doing things forever, if I have a drink. The little euphoria it brings makes me content and gives a false feeling that all is good. Then when it is over, before long my body is craving another drink.

So, now, Day Three without a Pepsi drink. The groggyness is lifting and I am somewhat normal again. I know that in time, I will reach the point where I will be able to taste a pepsi and not even like its taste.

In the meantime...orange juice, soup and toast, along with good healthy meals for supper. Its time to get healthy, there is a lot of work to do.

Monday, January 25, 2010

The Home Fires are Kept Burning

Yesterday the Great Falls Tribune had an excellent article on what the Montana Guard's role was in combating PTSD. see:
http://www.greatfallstribune.com/article/20100124/NEWS01/1240301/Montana-model-for-PTSD-detection-to-face-first-major-test

My son just left on another deployment. Great difficulties await his family and all the other families that are facing the same situation. The spouse now has the sole responsibility of caring for the children, taking care of the finances, and maintaining the home. All emergencies are now her sole responsibility. Single parents manage, but the situation is not the same. (Not to make light of single parenting...that is a tough job and I commend all those girls that get it together and make it work!) When husband and wife work together, make decisions on the family together, and with each maintaining their responsibility in the home...there is now a void -- one is missing. The support and strength they received from each other...is now only found in a fleeting phone call at times. Add to that the stress of caring about the safety of the spouse. Add to that the loss the children feel when they know Dad is not going to be home for a long time.

Tim and Huimin prepared for the separation: A dependable car, finances up-to-date, plans for the future made, and things that needed fixing - maintained.

Huimin, just like all the other wives, has already set in motion her plans to keep those home fires burning. In other deployments she got the kids involved in planning for Dad's return. And, she worked on preparing for the future. She then made plans to make it possible to have a time away for rest and relaxation when he returned. They also sent letters. Just those little special letters from Mom and the kids with drawings of the family with (now also the cat) and dog and the heart-felt "I love you" messages are his greatest treasurers. All things aren't perfect, but prayer and Trust in God will get everyone through the days until our loved ones return.